She's Not the Man I Married

My Life with a Transgender Husband

Helen Boyd

Helen Boyd's husband, who had long been open about being a crossdresser, is considering living as a woman full-time. Suddenly, Boyd is confronted with the reality of what it will mean if her husband were actually to become a woman--socially, legally, and medically. Would Boyd love and desire her partner the same way? Boyd's first book, My Husband Betty, explored the relationships of crossdressing men and their partners. Now, She's Not the Man I Married is both a sequel and a more expansive examination of gender in relationships. It's for couples who are homosexual or heterosexual, and for readers who fall anywhere along the gender continuum. As Boyd struggles to understand the nature of marriage, passion, and love, she shares her confusion and anger, providing a fascinating observation of the ways in which relationships are gendered, and how we cope--or don't--with the emotional and sexual pressures that gender roles can bring to our marriages and relationships.

9781580051934, paperback